There is no great answer. By the time I reach the other side, I am nearly a basket-case, as it
is scary... I found that
Pirelli MT66 Route tires are nearly immune to them, for the first 3,000 miles, or so. After that, they tend to become more affected by them. The Pirelli's will last around 10,000 miles, rear, so it is not a perfect solution, but they grip the road like glue, in rain, as well, so that's the route that I go.
I also slow down, never above 15-20 MPH, when crossing. I ride two-up, 98% of the time, so my experiences may be worse than your's, as my bikes are much heavier, and likely more affected because of the higher weight. Try to relax (this is what I tell myself, every time, over and over, until I reach the other side...). Cheers!
1979 CB750K (sold, 2012, but not forgotten)
1983 Kawasaki 440 LTD Belt Drive (sold, 2011)
1993 Kawasaki Voyager XII