I had a heck of a time finding a socket for those! Turns out, a Volkwagon Bug used a 17mm hex head to remove their oil plugs. Found the necessary socket at
O'Reilly's Auto Parts store.
Back on topic... Apply some anti-seize to the threads, torque to spec, then after you tighten the triple tree, it will not come loose. It will, however, come out easily when you need to change the fork fluid (annually, or semi-annually). As long as you torque it gently, it will not deform further, and you will be fine. I had a similar issue with mine, same thing, when I installed the Progressive Fork Springs, and fresh fluid. Cheers!
1979 CB750K (sold, 2012, but not forgotten)
1983 Kawasaki 440 LTD Belt Drive (sold, 2011)
1993 Kawasaki Voyager XII